Writing for an INFJ writer is like her blood. It runs through her veins. Among the MBTI personalities out there, living the INFJ personality earns the most number of fascinated people without knowing it’s the most difficult to live by.
Table of Contents
- My Life As An INFJ Writer
- Are You An INFJ?
- How Does It Feel Like To Be An INFJ?
- Why Do The INFJs Love To Write?
- Conclusion – Does Being An INFJ Affect Writing Style?
It’s early in the morning, but I already feel like I’ve been running a marathon. My mouth slightly opens to catch my breath as I wait until my heart beats normally again. Some say there’s something wrong with my brain. I guess so, too. It’s an unending, exhausting experience. And every time it happens, you feel guilty out of nothing because you have no control when it happens.
Imagine yourself apologizing for what you see, the damages, and the troubles, you’ve made but you have no idea how it all happened. Isn’t it funny to feel sad for killing everyone’s mood after you’ve done wrong but you are confused about why you have to?
My Life As An INFJ Writer
This is my writing story. A journey that I consider worth telling. Not to inspire you, no, that’s not my motivation here. But to embrace the power of writing it has to offer for you. You’ll see how writing becomes my only salvation to live and to try living more, though it’s already an effort to wake up from my bed.
At least, through my words, I can leave a mark on this world. My thoughts, and everything, are printed and shared with you. At least, my thoughts and my entire story can be relayed to someone or something and will not die with me. Is it a selfish desire to be recognized at least in that manner after all the selfless acts you’ve done for most of your life?
Among all the crazy and impossible things I did, writing my journey is what I consider the greatest thing I did when I cease to exist. And money is not part of it. Of course, I’m not dumb to deny the idea that writing brings money, power, fame, and influence—not only for a certain amount of people but on a macro-scale, the world.
If that’s how you see writing, then, I respect that. Because it’s true. And I’ve been telling my story about how I made my first $5,000 from staying at home and writing all day long. In that light, I have a lot to share. Shall we start? Let’s begin.
Are You An INFJ?
I wrote a post years ago where I thought I was an INTJ, though I’m not. How did I know I wasn’t an INTJ? Some traits of the personality type don’t fit me because I’m too emotional for it.
When I got serious about finding out some answers, at least, in that way, I can figure out specific details of who I am to validate my actions and thoughts, I realized that I was an INFJ.
If you are an INFJ, the following thoughts may occur or may have occurred to you as much as they did for most of my life:
- “What did I do?” is the first question you think of whenever someone or something is wrong even if it’s nothing to do with you.
- “What can I do?” is the next one, trying to become a superhero of everything.
- “I’m sorry” is part of your life to survive.
You have been struggling to belong, feeling a sense of authenticity in a community. Whether it’s your home, your village, or, on a macro scale, your country, you never have an experience of “true home.”
You have been struggling to belong, feeling a sense of authenticity in a community. Whether it’s your home, your village, or, on a macro scale, your country, you never have an experience of “true home.”
Your constant battle for a sense of belongingness leads you to utter those 3 simple statements as part of your dialogue.
Truity provides a long list of INFJ characteristics for you, however, none of them can give you a clear picture of what it’s like to live as an INFJ.
That brings me to my next point.
How Does It Feel Like To Be An INFJ?
It’s the most difficult, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally exhausting life one could imagine. If I were given a second chance to choose my birth, I would rather choose something else. The easier life.
And I bet most people with INFJ personality will tell you the same. People may wish to possess the uncanny traits we naturally have, but it’s the same life you may choose not to live.
Being an INFJ metaphorically looks like a black sheep trying to find a sense of belongingness from the moment they arrive on earth. It’s carrying a curse from the time you were born until you die.
The INFJ is the rarest type among the 16 MBTI personalities, the one people find most fascinating, intriguing, and worth-emulating, however, the one people don’t want to deal with.
As much as you want to live as a nobody, our passion, sometimes obsessively, attracts fame, though we’re not interested in getting everyone’s attention. In seemingly effortless ways, we attract either power or lifetime misery.
What people call “passion” can lead us to drive mankind to positive progress or irreparable destruction. Given, that it’s hard for us to tone that down, hence, we barely find people to befriend or to willingly accept us for who we are. Not even our own family.
To answer the question of how does it feel like to be an INFJ, especially for a writer, it’s the one people find most fascinating, intriguing, and worth emulating, however, it’s also the one people don’t want to deal with.
Why Do The INFJs Love To Write?
Almost every one of us is attracted to writing because it’s the only way for us to keep in touch with ourselves. And I bet most of the INFJs out there will agree to that. When we open the door and face the reality, we’re so convinced that our existence is masked with a facade for the sake of acceptance. I mean, survival.
Although our strong idealist nature tempts us to do what we want, we have to be functional and capable of doing something in an attempt to live our lives to the fullest. To make sure we can achieve that, we have to forget some parts of who we are or, for the most part, we keep them hidden in our closets for a long time until we will forget that side of us. It’s only revealed when we feel safe, wherever we call our “home.”
With that all being said, it’s self-explanatory why most INFJs turn their attention to writing to keep their sanity. Most of us define writing as our bloodline before our desperation comes just to keep our sense of freedom.
Although our strong idealist nature tempts us to do what we want, we have to be functional and capable of doing something as an attempt to live our lives to the fullest.
Nonetheless, I have enjoyed the writing journey and it opened many unexpected opportunities for me online. Without it, I couldn’t imagine how I would earn $5,000 as a writer or meet amazing people at all.
Through this 2-year-old blog, I learned how to improve more as an INFJ through listening to my sensitive intuition and refining my sense of intuition to become wiser and less impulsive towards my work—writing.
Conclusion – Does Being An INFJ Affect Writing Style?
Yes, it does. Given the time I spent on writing professionally, 6 years more or less, discovering my personality type affects my writing style a lot. Let alone the act of letting go of perfectionism, which I uphold in everything I do.
All this time, I thought I could force myself to write the same way as other successful writers do. But it didn’t give me pleasant outcomes. I got lost many times, spent a huge amount of time questioning my purpose, and got stuck as a writer.
Writer’s block has become my companion, leading to my inability to stay present and provide content for my audience. In that light, it consumes me, crippling me a lot and I don’t know why. I love to write.
I already saw the tangible results of it—made a profitable income more than I earned as a full-time high school teacher back in 2014, and met and worked with amazing people around the world—but I still feel something is missing.
When I learned that I’m an INFJ, it gave me a sense of clarity as to how I write that aligns with my real purpose, and above all, my authentic self. That also affects the way I run the blog and deal with the demands to run this business.
Being an INFJ, though, gives me more motivation to write. Concerning our natural abilities to perceive and to create as an INFJ, we can create a global, phenomenal impact for all mankind. All we need to do is to start today. At this point, INFJ writers like us, truly understand how valuable writing is in our lives. Life has not been easy for us.
When I learned that I’m an INFJ, it gave me a sense of clarity as to how I write that aligns with my real purpose, and above all, my authentic self. That also affects the way I run the blog and deal with the demands to run this business.
Instead of spending the next day resenting the difficulties of life towards us, we rather spend the next minute in self-introspection and muster our courage to transform those thoughts into something tangible. Again, it takes a lot of courage on our part to achieve what other people find menial.
This is how writing looks for us. Writing becomes our only salvation. To keep our sanity, to keep our lives from astray, and to remind ourselves about self-respect and self-love. I believe we already have given enough love, care, and passion to others. It’s time to give ourselves the same things and of the same amount.
Through writing, INFJs can achieve inner balance and inner peace. Take it from my experience as an INFJ writer. Trust me. It’s going to be worth it, my friend.
If you are an INFJ writer and you like this post, feel free to share it with your friends and family, share more other than what’s written on this post, and feel free to leave a comment below. I’d love to know what you have in mind as a fellow INFJ. 🙂 They’ll definitely appreciate the article.
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